It’s almost here, the big moment, the one you’ve been waiting for. Your guts are churning, and everything is on the line. Your heart is pounding out of your chest, your bladder feels like it is going to burst, and you suck in massive lungfuls of air in the hopes of hanging onto your lunch. […]
Most athletes want to win. That’s why they compete. Everyone loves the vision of glory, standing at the top of mountain, the national anthem playing in the background, or your name being called for the Academy Award, the crowd screaming your name. This is the quintessential image of winning. But before I go any further, […]
It’s a funny thing how people want to be risk-takers… yet they crave the safety of being talented, of being accepted, of being right, and yet they don’t want the pressure of being expected to perform. So how do you get to be successful without being a risk-taker? You can’t have it both ways. A […]
It’s the Holy Grail, the Elixir, the Magic Potion. If we could just find the secret ingredient to developing our confidence, we would be unstoppable. We would never fail, and would be successful beyond our wildest dreams… Then the movie ends, the lights come on and the credits start to roll on the screen, and […]
I’m all about trying to be better and better at what I do. I love learning and growing. But where did the notion come from that we have to be perfect? The monster under the bed Perfection is a scary thing because it implies you never do anything wrong, and you don’t make mistakes. First […]
How many times have you kicked yourself because you didn’t listen to your inner voice? It was a quiet whisper – your gut instinct – but louder and more persistent voices drowned it out. Drowned out by the noise Maybe it was the voice of others in positions of power. Maybe it was your own […]
How do you avoid fear and pain? Stay comfortable. Stay safe. Avoid disappointment. Don’t take risks. Don’t love. Don’t trust. Don’t create. Don’t strive to become better. Don’t care…don’t live. Are you really ever free? Oh, wait…that means you are making decisions based on the fear of fear, so really you are still feeling fear, […]
I often hear people stressing about moving forward because they are afraid of making mistakes. They desperately want to “do it right” this time. I get it…I’ve been there too. But I’ve learned the secret.