I often hear people stressing about moving forward because they are afraid of making mistakes. They desperately want to “do it right” this time. I get it…I’ve been there too. But I’ve learned the secret.
The secret to being afraid of making a mistake is…get over it. If you accept right now that a) no matter how much you research you do, there are no guarantees and b) you WILL make some mistakes… then you can start moving forward. The REAL secret is to learn from mistakes and change what caused the mistake. The better you get, the sooner you catch the mistake and change direction. Practice, practice, practice! The only way to get better at anything is to practice and learn from your mistakes!
I once heard of a team building exercise where two teams had to get all their team members to the other side end of an obstacle course. Any time they made a mistake, they had to start back at the beginning. The two teams took opposite approaches. One team analyzed the problem for a long time before making an attempt. The other team started going as fast as they could, quickly making big mistakes and running back to the start. Guess who won?
If you guessed the team making the mistakes, you are correct. As a matter of fact, they won by a huge margin. They decided to fail faster and more often and in so doing, learned much more quickly and as a result solved the puzzle first.
So if you want to improve faster, fail faster!
There is a quote I love…
“The difference between a master and a beginner is the master has failed far more often than the beginner has even tried.”
But failure prevents us from taking action.
Here’s the real brilliance. Everyone makes *mistakes*, even people at the pinnacle of their careers. They simply notice the behaviour going wrong sooner than others, and compensate more quickly than the average bear. They make sure next time out they do something different or will problem solve until they do. But they don’t think of it as a *mistake*, they think of it as a lesson.
Trust me, no matter how good you get at something, you will still be saying…”if only I knew then what I know now.” The journey of learning never ends. So get over it, get on with it, and enjoy every minute!