I recently did an exercise myself, and then asked several of my clients to do the same. The exercise is to write down 50 things (actually 100, but I had my clients start with 50) that you do well. On average, I’d say the first 10-15 aren’t too hard to get. The next 10, it starts to feel like you are really reaching to find something. After that, it gets pretty tough. It took me several sessions to come up with my list.
Why is it so hard?
Why is it so hard to find 100 things that we do well? Because if they aren’t world-changing talents we think they don’t deserve to be on the list. We tend to compare ourselves to the best of the best, and anything less isn’t ‘worthy’. We’re embarrassed to include things that aren’t perfect. We don’t appreciate and give ourselves credit for the little things we are good at. We aren’t grateful for our small gifts, only our bigger ones.
Don’t dilute yourself for any person or any reason. You are enough! Be unapologetically you. – Steve Mariboli
The accumulation of small gifts
For example, cooking is not a strength of mine. (Can you say ‘daily smoke detector alarm’?) However, I do make very good blueberry pancakes. It took me awhile to realize that could go on my list even though it wasn’t a ‘world changer’. Now, they might not win any awards, but who cares? They are pretty tasty on a relaxing Sunday morning!
You are a wonderful, unique, talented person. You don’t have to be the best at everything — you don’t even need to be the best at any one thing. But you are the total package.
Friedrich Nietzsche wrote:
At bottom, every [woman] knows well enough that [she] is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvellously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as [she] is, ever be put together a second time.
That’s you he’s talking about…a marvellously picturesque piece of diversity in unity…all those talents rolled into one amazing person.
Over the next week, make a list of 50 things you do reasonably well, and whenever you doubt that you are special, look at that list to remind yourself how special, talented and unique you really are.
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