Wouldn’t it be nice if everything just went your way? Perfect conditions for success all the time? In one way, that would take the fun out of it, because it would become boring…too easy, no challenge.
Life isn’t perfect
But you don’t have to worry about that, because that’s not real life anyway. Things happen, and it’s the people who can perform in less than ideal circumstances who succeed in the long run, because circumstances are rarely perfect.
Yes, occasionally someone will stumble across the perfect circumstances and shoot straight to stardom, but unless they are prepared to take advantage of it, their success is short-lived.
So…how do you deal with less than perfect circumstances? The answer is you need mental toughness.
Great answer, but how do you develop mental toughness?
5 Keys to Mental Toughness
I think there are 5 important elements.
- Words have power – be very careful of your language. Your words are a reflection of your thoughts, but words also reinforce your thinking, and can either create an empowering or vicious cycle, depending on how you use them. “Never say anything about yourself that you don’t want to come true.” -Brian Tracy
- Avoid excuses – they are simply delusional statements of why you aren’t willing to press forward. If you really don’t want to prioritize something, just say so. Take responsibility for your results. Honesty and self-awareness go a long way toward clearing your mind to put energy into what you really do want.
- Control your emotions – instead of freaking out. Breathe deeply, count to 10 and think objectively about what needs to be done. You know someone isn’t mentally tough when they can’t control their emotions.
- Focus on what you want – not on the obstacles in the way. If you don’t know what to focus on, the tendency is to focus on the negative. It’s when we don’t know what the next step is that we become vulnerable to defeatist attitudes. Even if you don’t know what the next step is, focus on what you want, and go find out what the next step is. Goal setting is key.
- Dogged, persistent action – even when things aren’t going well or don’t feel easy. Show up consistently. Do the work even when you don’t feel like it, whether it’s training your dog, going to the gym or sitting down to write. This helps strengthen your “mental toughness muscle”, doing small things when it’s hard, so you have the strength and understanding to cope with the big things when they happen. Yes, there is a time to sit back and analyze, but you’ll find out quicker if something works by trying it rather than hypothesizing.
What tactics have helped you be more mentally tough, more consistent, and more focused?
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